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Doggone. That got me thinking. (Actually, if you’re going to be a writer, you should do some thinking. This premise may not be obvious, especially when you view articles in print. But a certain amount of reasoning, perceiving and a few thought bubbles should precede the process of jotting down lasting words in an essay.)
What is excessive? And what is admiration?
You know, I really think this is something human beings have worked out on their own. We have this great phrase: “admiring from afar.”
Even though I get grumpy and have the occasional lamentation because people don’t inform me of what they like about me, I do realize that they tell others. Maybe there’s something in the human psyche, or our “jungle sense,” which lets us know that we shouldn’t puff people up too much lest we burst them and splatter their contents to the four winds.
So instead, we tell others how much we like them, using that old-fashioned “trickle down” theory. In other words, we hope that what goes around really DOES come around.
There are too many people in this world, though, who hear too much praise and others who are destitute of having their hands lifted and their burdens lightened.
I mean, let’s be honest. Are the people we see on television REALLY the “best” at anything?
Even though I write, perform, compose and so forth, there are many other individuals worthy of more praise than me. So I’m careful to deflect the teaspoon of adulation I receive instead of swallowing it like medicine or licking it like honey off a stick.
Why? Because it’s excessive.
I also do not like religious services in which God is always “adored” and great adulation is given to His Holy Name–when really, as a Father, He would appreciate it if the kids would just pick up the room.
Yes, when you’re a parent, you don’t need your children to come around with saccharine affection, hugging you around the neck all the time. It would just be nice if they would take the trash out at the end of the day.
I don’t like adulation. I do like appreciation. Whenever something is done in kindness it should be acknowledged and encouraged.
But to insist that the person hung the moon because he or she was considerate ,,, is certainly lunacy.