Besiege: (v) to purposely surround
Good intentions are the excuses we are prepared to make when we know, deep in our hearts, that we may just be interfering.
It really comes down to two words: hug or surround.
What is the difference? If you’re standing at a distance, they can appear to be the same thing:
- In both cases, they resemble an embrace.
- In both cases, they bring you close to the source of your focus.
- And in both cases, they temporarily confine others to your moment’s emotion.
But a hug is something you want–or even need.
Being surrounded is the whim of the person who’s decided for you what you need.
You can see, one is quite the opposite of the other.
There is a general weakness in the human race which makes us feel that we are responsible to make other people as devoted, sacred, disturbed or entrenched as we are–even if it doesn’t make them happy.
We don’t want to be a testimony to others–we prefer taking the role of judge and jury.
So in my journey, I’ve discovered that even though I think I have an insight on the predicament or progress of other human beings, I will stand afar and allow them to know that I’m available … but not besieging them with my presence.