Beyond: (prep) to the further side of.
I find myself taking some time off from touring to visit family.
I am told that this is meant to be a pleasant excursion, and there are pleasurable interludes within the available experience.
But I think America’s obsession with family is a ploy to avoid dealing with the world as our brothers and sisters, attempting to limit life to a much smaller Christmas list.
When I arrived in town, I curtailed my expectation–knowing that my children are all grown, have lives of their own, and are not constantly wondering what I might be feeling or thinking about any given situation.
I used to be Lord of the Manor, and now I am basically the gardener.
It’s not really a demotion–just an honorary position given to the retiring parent who is still permitted to be the groundskeeper.
So I’ve spent the week thinking about the word “beyond.”
- What is beyond my scope?
- What is beyond my ability?
- What is beyond my interest?
- What is beyond my business?
It is a fascinating series of questions which avail me of great understanding–as long as I don’t accidentally become too introspective or trip over my pouty lip.
The best thing to do as you get older is focus on your own life and let your children do the same. Every once in a while, they’ll pull out a photo album, remember a former time, become nostalgic and call you on the phone.
The key is to make sure you’re available.
Beyond that is beyond reason.