Children: (n) plural form of child.
Four sons were brought into this world by my sexual cooperation. In other words, I’m their dad.
Three other young gentlemen arrived on my doorstep because they were no longer safe and sound in their home environment.
As I look back on it, I must be truthful–because I’m a writer, a vagabond, a searcher and a proclaimer, I may not have been the best choice of a man to have
children. Fortunately for me, my offspring generally disagree.
My approach with children was really simple: I have a life. It is my time to have a life. You are welcome to come along if you don’t complain too much.
They quickly became convinced that their dad was cool, because he wasn’t like other dads. Of course, when they came into their teen years, they became critical of me not being like other dads. The charm of my uniqueness had worn off.
Children exist for two reasons:
- To remind us how bratty human beings really are.
- To give us a chance through instruction, love and tenderness to make a better generation.
I cuddled with my children but I never coddled them.
I loved them but I avoided getting lovey-dovey.
I gave to them, but never gave into their demands.
I respected them as long as they respected themselves.
I laughed with them as long as they realized there was a season to weep.
And when it was time for them to move on, I granted them the autonomy to be themselves without feeling loaded down with ancient family history.
The Good Book says we are the children of God. It’s very true–because after all, we are a bratty group which needs discipline, but still possesses the potential of bringing new hope for a new generation.