Congenial: (adj) a pleasant personality
If you will allow me to advance this theory–human virtue rarely travels alone.
This is what often perplexes those who are trying to improve their image.
For instance, someone says you are not kind enough, so you attempt to “go out and be kind”–only to return by mid-day, spitting, cussing and swearing never again to pursue such a farce.
The reason for the failure is that kindness does not work by itself. Kindness needs to team up with a couple of other contributors. Those two friends are patience
Otherwise, you will find yourself being kind to the unkind, and rather than patiently waiting for your overtures to pay off with the next traveler, you will give up, not allowing your joy to give you the strength to be kind again.
Congenial is an idea, but not really one that is easily put into practice. We often regret being gentle when others respond in a gruff manner.
If you truly want to achieve the attribute of congeniality, then it is necessary to link your kindness with some enduring patience, knowing that the joy that will come through the victory will propel you on to a lifestyle of openness.
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