Words from Dic(tionary)
Advantage: (n) a condition or circumstance that puts one in a favorable or superior position.
“Tall, dark and handsome.”
I never acquired any member of that trio. I do not possess that advantage.
IS it an advantage? I think if you’re tall, dark and handsome, you do get an immediate pass to the front of the line. Unfortunately for you, if you don’t back that up with “smart, hard-working and caring,” you probably will be booted to the curb quicker than someone who is plain-looking.
Why? Because you’re disappointing. You promised SO much with your looks and delivered SO little with your personality.
Therefore what seems to be an advantage quickly can become a disadvantage if you end up thinking you are a fleshly mannequin instead of a real human being.
Yet I will tell you that we all NEED an advantage–something that truly sets us apart instead of us merely “moving our parts” and getting “set in our ways.”
So I worked on ME. Actually, it’s a work in progress, so please do not think that I’m done. Three areas, paralleling “tall, dark and handsome:”
Since I couldn’t muster “tall,” I decided to be faithful. By faithful, I mean true to my own word while sensitive to the needs of others.
I went opposite on “dark.” I decided to be a light–to bring possibilities and hope instead of merely stating the obvious and offering gloom to the room.
“Handsome” out of the question, I chose to be attractive. Now you may think those are the same, but they aren’t. What is most attractive to other human beings is a glorious blend of humor, talent and humility. When you are able to mix those three spices together, you can put them in any dish and create a delicacy.
- There is no advantage in being good-looking if you’re dumbfounded.
- There is no advantage in wealth if you’re selfish.
- And there is no advantage in being popular if you’re not prepared for the day when you will be pushed away by the latest fad.
The greatest advantage any human being can have is to tap your resources … and give a damn.