Avow: (v) to assert or confess openly.
It is the action demanded of a criminal in a court case when a guilty plea has been accepted and it becomes his or her responsibility to admit to all of the facets and details of the crime.
Even though we demand this from the more sinister members of our society, we do not require it of the common man or woman.
The most popular rendition of denying one’s previous deeds is the apology. I think we all would agree that an apology from a murderer in a courtroom would not only be insufficient, but insulting. And the lack of requiring that people avow their involvement–good or bad–in a situation gives enough wiggle room that we are never quite certain of what is true and what is false.
When truth becomes a bouncing ball, it’s not safe for anyone to play.
Very recently, I have become convinced of the intelligence of coming clean. It’s a three-step process:
- I come to myself.
I realize I have done or am doing something unfruitful, perhaps even wrong.
- I come to the facts.
I decide what would be an accurate assessment of my situation and how to phrase it in such a way that I could unburden my conscience and clarify my need for repentance.
- I come to others.
It simply is not enough for us to be aware of our own frailties. We gain power and position when those around us know we can be trusted because they have heard us be honest about uncomfortable matters.
It is certainly much more popular to disavow–to distance oneself from causes or endeavors that have proven to be detrimental. But the ability to avow one’s involvement, positive or negative, is the trigger for our trust of those we love or those we wish to lead us.
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