Conflict: (n) a serious disagreement or argument
When trying to rent an auditorium, I once had the proprietor of the theater say, “Hold on. We have a conflict.”
We were just discussing dates–but he was right. That is what a conflict should be.
I want something. You can’t provide it.
You explain that to me, and we make other arrangements.
But Mr. Webster seems to think that for a conflict to be legitimate, there has to be a serious disagreement.
I, for one, am opposed to serious disagreements.
I am completely uninterested in adult conflict, which lends itself to arguments, pouting and grudges.
So today, I am determined to change the definition of the word “conflict” to a first-stage discussion which is elegantly handled by two or more mature, kindly, intelligent adult people.
Long before we become entrenched and start throwing grenades across the chasm, it is possible to say, “I think, on this point, we have a conflict. ”
Then conflict becomes valuable. It tells us that the circumstances we are pursuing are not suitable for everyone until they’re renegotiated.
It isn’t standing in the mud of a political party and insisting that if the other side doesn’t comply, they are either ignorant, or elitist.
We have a conflict. It is not insurmountable, unless we want to let that conflict lay around and become aggravated.
Let’s not do that.
Let’s immediately share when something is not to our taste, with the hopes that a simple conversation might render yet another possibility.
And may I say that often that third option is proven to be much better than either yours original, or mine.
(click the elephant to see what he’s reading!)