Cotillion: (n) a formal ball given especially for debutantes.
A cotillion used to be subtitled “a coming out ball.”
Now that phrase would evoke great laughter—because “coming out” means something completely different from it did when we were
referring to the first time a sixteen-year-old girl was dressing up like a woman and spraying perfume in her hair.
Somewhere lodged between the fallacy that “everything in the past was better” and the hard sell of “everything now is superior” lies some sort of compromise.
Maybe if we approached the passage of time similarly to the way we eat food at a smorgasbord, we might just arrive at a blending of practices which would be satisfying and beneficial to our well-being. For after all, at a buffet you grab a plate and walk the line, take a little bit of half-a-dozen or more items, go sit down and discover what is pleasing to the palate.
This is exactly what I try to do with my human life.
I have no desire to live in the past, filled with disease, pestilence and prejudice. Yet I’m not particularly satisfied with being overwhelmed in the present, with forms of idiocy which have merely donned contemporary costumes.
I do like a little bit of the cotillion to go along with my Facebook and Instagram.
I like the idea of the transitions in life being honored with celebration and a touch of reverence instead of the crude way of thinking that a young girl becomes a woman by losing her virginity.
How can we balance the human heart, spirit and brain? The heart wants to be moved, the spirit wants to be inspired and the brain desires learning.
So I guess my goal is to feel my way along, looking for those things that inspire me, and then try to make them my own.