I have always pridefully considered myself to be a good communicator. Of course, I am the worst judge of such a determination.
It really would have to be evaluated by others around me who fall victim to hearing my explanations and discourse.
But setting aside my ego, I will tell you that no matter how well you think you speak, your words will become mere babble if you don’t take three things into consideration:
- Am I sharing something from my heart that I know the person I’m speaking with definitely disagrees with?
It is unlikely that you will convince folks to change their minds through debate or conversation. Normally it just cements their position.
People change their minds when they become convinced they are uncool if they don’t.
- Never talk as long as you want to.
If you’re telling a story and you think it will run about three minutes, then you desperately need to develop a one-minute version.
Taking people’s attention span to the limit of their toleration is the best way to ensure that they will not tolerate you very long.
- Learn the power of silence gaps.
If you find that you have just rattled off two or three minutes worth of conversation about yourself, insert a “breath mint” of silence. Allow people to understand that you comprehend the value of speech, but also appreciate the solitude of being mute or even of listening.
If you include those three things into your interaction with others, you will never be considered a “babbler” … or have folks secretly roll their eyes when you walk into the room.
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