Best man: (n) a male friend chosen by a bridegroom to assist him at his wedding.
The danger of being candid is that after you spill your guts, you risk that others around you will insist they never feel the way you do, and are even appalled at your inclinations.
With that in mind, I will present a theory in this essay which you can feel free to deny, but if there is a lick of truth in it, do so at your own soul’s peril.
It’s fun to be a best man.
And the greatest fun about being a best man is having the ability to flirt with the bride without having to follow up with consummation.
Matter of fact, I will tell you that the greatest responsibility a man has is taking simple flirtation through the course of dating, ending up with commitment, and then having to deliver the full impact of all the promises.
Flirtation is marvelous.
Both parties feel invigorated by it and there is a sexual rendezvous in the mind which doesn’t have to be acted out, ending in disappointment.
In other words, brain sex is always great.
So I think many guys like to be the best man because they believe that often, in the mind of the bride, they are the best man … and she’s just settling for the other guy.