Crass: (adj) without refinement, delicacy, or sensitivity; gross; obtuse; stupid
How does one write in such a way as to communicate that the thoughts being shared are in a whisper?
Great question, huh?
Well, if you would imagine that I am whispering, I will tell you to calm your spirit and listen carefully.
There is one secret to life and one alone. It is the thing that prevents us from being crass.
After all, crass is when things go along real well until someone threatens our sacred cow, never actually having any intention of killing it.
And at this point, people argue. They challenge. They bicker. And more often than not, it ends in some uncomfortable stand-off, where the footing is slippery, and the grudges begin to ice up.
We are all crass until we learn one valuable idea:
Don’t be defensive.
If someone makes a statement in your direction that offends you, don’t immediately leap to share explanations of your motivations or calibrate the correct insult to fire back.
It is really what is meant by “turning the other cheek.” It is not allowing somebody to punch you and then giving them permission to beat the hell out of you. No, it is refusing to become defensive, and instead, measuring the moment to see if you want to put yourself in the middle of a lengthy discussion, or would rather just go home.
Candidly, wasting time is more aggravating than being insulted. Consider the source, consider your heart and soul, consider your time.
We become crass when we feel it is necessary to defend ourselves whenever anyone darkens our countenance with their disapproval.
But crass by its very nature always leads to an overblown objection that makes the other person defensive, and then two defensive people defend themselves until everybody’s offended.