Cordial: (adj) courteous and gracious; friendly; warm:

“It doesn’t work! Not nowadays!”

That’s the statement flung in my direction whenever I suggest that kindness, gentleness and being cordial is a viable option to bitterness, strife and animosity.

It seems the entire human race is frightened by the prospect that being merciful is setting them up, like a golf ball on a tee, to be driven far, far away by a funny wisdom on words that begin with a C
smack with a club.

Yet no one sits down and asks the simple question, “What happens when people are no longer intimidated by your bad attitude?”

You may frighten people off by being suspicious, nasty and unfriendly, but eventually, someone will be terror-free, and others will learn to shed their fear of you. Then they will come with torches and pitchforks, to kill the Frankenstein who was so rude to them.

That would be you.

There’s one thing for certain—no one has to go to bed nervous, asking him or herself, “Is my cordial attitude going to backfire on me?”

There’s a peace that follows being peaceful.

There’s a blessedness attached to being a peace-maker.

It is so precious that people will begin to believe that you’re a child of God.

The bravest thing you can ever do in your life is to refuse to fight, argue, attack and brutalize another human being. The risk is that they will still turn on you and destroy you while you stand there, helpless.

But there is the possibility that your unwillingness to draw blood in conflict with them will at least give them pause.

If you refuse to join the battle, any further attack makes them murderers if they kill you, not warriors.

Cordial people survive to have great-grandchildren and write the history books about those they out-loved.

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Assent: (v) to express approval or agreement.dictionary with letter A

How do I disagree without being disagreeable and losing the ear of those who might benefit from my companionship?

This particular time in history is baffling. It combines the three worst attributes of humanity:

  1. Too many opinions
  2. Too fragile of an ego
  3. Too quick to fight

When you take those three and combine them in social interactions, what you end up with are people who are constantly offended and constantly on the lookout for enemies to attack.

  • We are not out for common sense.
  • We are worshippers of the common “assent.”

People want me to agree with them or else they want to terminate interaction with me and limit my effect.

On the other hand, if I try to be understanding of another person’s opinion, people from the other camp will brutalize me for being wishy-washy.

Is life about finding out what is true, or is it discovering little pieces of knowledge and sitting around with friends, gently trying to construct a reasonable solution?

I love to give my assent–I want to find reasons to “amen” instead of condemn.

So because of that, sometimes I find myself supporting a conservative approach, and other times in the pursuit of a liberal agenda. This causes me to be considered an adversary by both warring parties.

But I will not lose heart.

Truth never marches under a banner.

It is discovered one crumb at a time until we finally make our way to the bread of life.



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