Arbiter: (n) a person who settles a dispute.
Compromise is popular.
It has become so accepted that when someone utters the phrase, “We all need to compromise,” there is practically a collective “Amen” spoken in the room.
To achieve compromise, we often require an arbiter.
These are people who feel they are valuable by taking a bit of one side and mingling a little of another side to come up with a whole new rendition, which is only partially accepted by each individual party.
Honestly, this doesn’t work anywhere else in life.
Aside from Tex-Mex food, mixing cuisines is normally a disaster.
An ecumenical philosophy which includes all religions leaves you with precepts that should be written on fortune cookies and have about as much significance.
Congress gathering to mesh their opinions into a bill usually leaves us with a law which attempts to cover the subject like a blanket with our feet sticking out the end.
The times I found myself being an arbiter, I discovered a truth. Since the individuals were already disagreeing, trying to get them to sign off on a diluted format would be unsatisfying to both of them, and probably ignored in the long run.
I don’t believe in compromise. I hold to a philosophy of submission.
If two people are arguing, it’s likely that neither one has the total perspective.
If you can help people land on what has historical value, personal satisfaction and global respect, then asking them to submit to that conclusion creates the climate for a healing situation.
We can do this with anything.
Any issues possesses a core of emotional, spiritual and mental health which can be tapped if we’re not so intent on promoting our own cause.
But to do so, we must submit to ideals and truths which may be different from our own popular cultural outlook.
They say that politics is built on compromise. Actually, politics should be built on common sense. Each amendment to the Constitution should be looked at through the eyes of our generation and interpreted to honor the original freedoms without holding to the letter of the law.
The same thing would be true of corporate by-laws, marital relationships and even our reverence for the Good Book.
Compromise is the belief that there is “right” everywhere, and we just need to blend our “rights” together.
Knowing the nature of human beings, it’s more likely that we’re slightly mistaken in the first place, and we need to find common ground by submitting to more mature wisdom.
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