Crossly: (adj) in a cross or angry manner
In a normal school day of, let’s say, seven hours, may we conjecture that fifteen percent of the time is spent shifting from one class to another, ten percent having lunch, another fifteen percent on history or social studies, fifteen more percent on English and grammar, and then another fifteen on the sciences, while a whopping thirty percent is invested in mathematics.
I am not trying to editorialize on school subject matter—measuring its height, weight and depth in value.
But I will tell you:
Most of adult life is spent trying to learn to communicate.
You will notice that on the average school day, communication is not a primal concern. It is expected that the students will figure it out for themselves and give reasonable honor to the teaching staff.
But without learning communication, we are unfortunately destined to continually say things that are offensive and find ourselves called on the carpet for it, apologizing in such a manner that nobody in the room—including ourselves—believes it to be sincere.
When too much knowledge mingles with too much ego and is accompanied by too much stress, it makes us begin to speak crossly.
We may not even be aware that our tone of voice has changed from relaxed to strained. But everyone who hears us immediately pulses the fury, sarcasm and despair that lurks behind each syllable.
You would think, since most of our lives is spent communicating, that some training might be in order.
But even in our homes, once a reasonable peace and quiet has been achieved, we don’t necessarily care how it was acquired.
Until we grasp that human beings don’t hear words, but rather, absorb the vibrations of emotions, we will insist that everyone is too touchy because “we never meant anything” by what we said.
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