Chivalry: (n) readiness to help the weak, associated with knights
Leave it to America to take a tradition of kindness to the poor and those less fortunate and attribute it solely to caring for and even wooing the female of the species.
The first insult comes in assuming that women are weaker. Of course, there are plenty of ladies who are more than prepared to carry a lesser
load. And some gentlemen who are duped into thinking that opening car doors is the prerequisite to opening vaginas.
So it becomes a game of cat and mouse, which, as I recall, is not really a game at all, but rather, a duel to the death, with the mouse always victimized.
It just seems to me that you cannot insist on using chivalry on women without also promoting the idea that they are desperately in need of attention.
I like the original definition. Candidly, there are times I am weak. I welcome a little chivalry–even if it comes from the opposite sex.
But our country is very cluttered by its own tangled web of misconceptions:
- Women are not weaker–just promoted to be that way so men can feel stronger.
- Men are not chivalrous when they condescend to women, but rather, chauvinists.
If you’re not sure if you should give a lady your assistance, then just ask. She will let you know.
And then you will actually have an experience in equality.