Corporal punishment: (n) physical punishment of a child
Decisions are made for different reasons.
Sometimes we decide to pursue a path because it seems wise. Other times, we choose to follow a direction because it’s popular. And then
there are those occasions when we tout our belief because we are convinced it makes us look good and righteous.
But all decisions—whatever they may be—need to be practical, because you will have to employ them and make them work.
For every stance you make will eventually come to the forefront, and your sincerity and purpose will be challenged to see if you are dedicated or just a big bag of wind.
Never is there any subject that typifies this situation more than child-rearing and the subject of corporal punishment. We live in an era when it’s cool to insist that spanking, physical contact or any type of punishment that involves inflicting pain on a child is forbidden and barbaric.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that assertion as long as you can live with it, and also as long as you’re aware that your magical little offspring will test your faith in the premise as often as he or she possibly can.
There are times that children just don’t listen.
There are occasions when you swear that they just came back from a week of camp in hell, and Satan was their counselor.
And there are needful impasses where you must overcome their foolish will with your reasonable nature.
Don’t theorize your willingness to abstain from corporal punishment.
Otherwise, you’ll find yourself making statements to your children about how “you will never…” And suddenly, in a moment of weakness, your “jungle” will arise and create a bungle.
Yes, you just might get on your last nerve and smack one of them.
To avoid this (as well you should) you need an intricate system of clever traps and diversions. If you don’t have these, and you allow your children to run your emotions ragged, the beast in you will come out and you’ll be embarrassed and feel worse than the time at church camp when you struck out in the softball game and all they needed you to do was get on base to win the game.
Hitting is wrong.
Self-righteousness is worse.
If you don’t have a plan on how to avoid corporal punishment, you will hit. It’s as simple as that.
So never say never unless you come up with an answer for, “Whatever…”
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